Some folks just want a box to protect them from the elements. Their needs are simple and they don’t invest a lot into their abode. As you are here, my assumption is that you have higher aspirations for your dwelling.
Each home lives differently and brings with it a vibe that you can accentuate to your liking. Just like us, though, it is important to honor the vibe by tuning into it, into what the house speaks to you about, so you get any tweaks and changes right for that particular house.
I’m blond. As a child I was quite upset I was not born dark skinned with straight hair as my best friend was. But I had to eventually come to terms with my Scandinavian/German heritage and flat accept who I am. I am not black, Hispanic or any other person of colour. I am, in fact, just a notch below albino. In this life I am a white paper girl. And that is ok. And while my hair isn’t straight or black, I love that it’s texture and curl is identical to my lovely dark skinned Hungarian mother in law.
So we all must work with what it is that we’ve got. Actually, we need to honor what we have because this is the only way that we are truly going to bring peace to it and bring out the best that we and our dwelling can be.
Homes are a shelter, firstly, but they are also spirit. Our house affects our mood even before we hit the driveway as we come home daily to it. Unfinished this and that’s, a remudle that messed things up, or just plain dirty (see other posts on cleaning tips!).
My mother once exclaimed ‘I feel so sorry for you, Suzi! All those dog toys every place! That dog is just ruining your life!’ She had it wrong. Now, if you have children’s toys all over the house, you may want to pick things up but a few toys is joy in the evidence. I went to a friends home and her children were all playing with toys in the living room. She immediately apologized and began picking them up. I said, no, let the kids play. A home should be joyful. A teacup sitting at the ledge of an otherwise clean and polished coffee table suggests joyful use. My husband left his cup in our sitting room the other day and I imagined him there, reading and sipping his tea, wondering upon all his thoughts as he reposed. Rather than immediately pick the cup up, as I typically do, I left it all day. Each time I passed, I smiled at the fact he enjoyed this room.
Most of us spend so much time at home. Those of us who don’t, are still tethered to it as a sanctuary away and apart from the outside world. Therefore, I believe the home should convey who you are on a personal level. I like to walk in a room and see how a person lives and learn more about them in this manner. I went to an estate sale in our neighborhood recently. There was a lot of stuff, most of it trash. They had crammed the house up with detritus of little to no value and filled, floor to ceiling, 3 additional sheds on property with similar worthless junk. On a conscious level, perhaps they had ceased thinking about it, decades ago, but I promise you, on a subconscious level, it wore them down.
We recently removed 2 10×6 metal storage containers the prior owner had installed. We have one more shed to remove so that the landscape can take further shape. But I wonder what is so important that 2100 square feet cannot contain it? Why have so much that your architecture and landscape take a back seat? Why be in danger of jamming a knee just trying to navigate to the bathroom?
Like a wall in an art museum, I have honed our living space, significantly paring down furniture and furnishings. What we have pops more, is easier to clean and keep up with. What we own, also owns us. Sometimes that is a very cool and groovy feeling. I loved my Porsche and I love my MR2. I love many things in my home and the home itself. To a point, I am cool with them owning me too, but also, I try to be cognizant of not acquiring too much, making things over the top where there is too much labor and maintenance as that sucks the joy out.
It is good to periodically examine how we live and if how we are doing that today still serves us. What do we want to bring into our life and what can we let go of to feel lighter, brighter and create space for something we will truly treasure?
Need some great advice to begin? I love this book by Karen Kingston, Creating Sacred Space With Feng Shui